Five Cents’ Worth of Positive Feedback
Remind yourself to give kids more of the approval they crave by putting five pennies
in your pocket or on the window sill each day.
Use Pennies to Remember to Praise
The more attention kids get for the good things they do, the more they want to
repeat the behavior. Psychological research demonstrates that positive feedback has
a huge impact on motivating behavioral change. Yet we can easily find ourselves
focusing instead on what kids do wrong. Commit yourself to giving your kid 5 pieces
of positive feedback every day for a week, and see the difference it makes.
Here’s a useful way to remind yourself.
Start each day with 5 pennies in your righthand pocket or on one side of the window
sill. Each time you praise your kid, move a penny to the lefthand pocket or the other
side of the sill. By the end of the days, all of the pennies should move to the other
Remember that effective feedback describes the behavior, describes the situation
and states the effect.
For Easter praises, why not put some positive statements inside those hidden eggs?
How to Discipline a Child: Part II
Natural and Logical Consequences
The use of natural consequences involves letting the results of behavior provide a learning experience.
When responding to inappropriate behavior a logical consequence is one that fits the behavior.
Example of Natural Consequence:
The child forgets his homework. Instead of bringing it to school, the parent allows him to experience the consequences of missing recess and/or having to do it over.
Example of Logical Consequence:
After telling your child NOT to ride her bike in the street, she does so anyway. The parent takes her bike away for a specific time period.
Allows children to take responsibility for their actions
Use consequences in combination with positive techniques
Follow through with consequence promptly
Be consistent; empty threats do not work
NOTE: These approaches cannot be used in situations where the safety of the child or another person is a concern.
Provide a Functional Communication System ~ Behavior is Communication
Without a functional way to communicate needs, wants and feelings, a child will become frustrated.
Negative behaviors can be the child’s attempt to make others aware of his needs, wants and feelings.
If a young child cannot express that he is hungry or thirsty, simple sign language may enable him to convey these basic needs
An older student who has no way to participate in class discussions is likely to act out to gain the attention of his teacher and classmates
Assistive technology may be needed by some children
Teach Replacement Behaviors ~ Provides the child with more appropriate responses
Gives the child a better, more acceptable way to behave; replaces undesirable behaviors with more acceptable ones.
Teaches the child other options
Acknowledges that the traditional telling the child to just “stop the behavior” will not be effective because the child does not know an alternative way to behave
This strategy can include providing the child with scripts for common situations
Can also include teaching the child to use visual imagery, such as a stop sign
If a child curses when angry, provide more appropriate words to use
Are you struggling with disciplining your child?
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